Seriously now… MULTIPLE broom sticks… WWW shall be the code name for the next THREE WEEKS ok?
Right so WWW walked through the door gave me a hug and then proceeded to walk through every single room stating that its chaos and that she can see that she has a lot of work to do while she is here.
Now just for the record I am a Virgo right, this house is as clean as it can be considering that there are still boxes that need to be unpacked but with no place to go or be unpacked to. Kids playroom is in a state because they keep throwing things around but anyways. The rest of the house? Nice and clean, Virgo style. Floors are clean, counters shiny, bathrooms clean…
She looked through every cupboard including my own, looked under beds, bathroom cupboards, outside, inside, the bin, the fridge, the pantry, the freezer… everything fucken thing!
She then sits down for some porridge at the spotless counter with her roaming eyes and announces that things will be done her way while she is here. She will clean while the kids are watching TV, she will cook from tomorrow, she will buy food and that she brought food from America because its cheaper and better.
Note: She is a health freak that only eats organic food, throws the kids sweets away (the kids complain about this all the time) and won’t allow them anything unhealthy in any way. The elder mentioned that at Halloween he won a bag of marshmellows and some sweets at a house party, when he got home his mama threw it away, it hurt him badly.
The kids asked me last night to stay with them while their Mama is here, I said that I would but I am rethinking this strategy. I know the kids need and want me here but at the same time I know that this is going to end up in a competition which is the one thing I do not want to happen.
If she feels the need to compete for affection with the kids it will just screw them up more, not temporarily either but permanently. They will start to feel torn and confused, feel like they have to choose or worse. From the first 30 minutes… she is the competitive type and wanting to make her place known.
Another note on food: The kids asked me to hide their crisps/chips so that mama doesn’t find them as well as their sweeties… I forgot to hide the sweets but the chips are safe
I am now searching for an eyelash upon my cheek to wish for 3 weeks to speed by, to be able to see the end of this WWW. My question is this… if she is like this in the first 30 minutes what the hell is she going to be like for the rest of it?
The kids expect me to pick them up from school with their mama, I’ve been told that she will be doing it… poor kiddies no wonder they have been so stressed out about her coming here…
I WANT AN EYELASH SOMEONE GIVE ME ONE QUICK
So folks, it’s me, the WWW, two angels and hidden bags of crisps…
That was this morning it gets far worse but I just dont have the strength to write about it… for now
I applaud you for doing what ever is in the best interest of those kiddos; WWW feels threatened so therefore has to blow in, and take over. Let those kiddos know if you need to bow out for a few days the reason for that; that is all you need to do. They will understand I believe, once she is gone…… they know for sure that you love them and got their backs….
Thinking of you often, sis. Hang in there!
Oh god, this is not going to be pleasant. Then again, I must agree with Vanessa in applauding your dedication to these kids by trying to make this go ok for them and not turn it into a competition where they get stuck in the middle.
Keep your wits about you, you’ll need them to deal with WWW – I’m sending you strength and a little dog named Toto to help keep the cheer in your heart and the smile on your face for those kids!
Thanks Vanessa, needed those words!
SI ooo Toto, we love LOVE toto! Guess its just another one of those things that I must face in order to get through… the last week did not help … bullets lol
I had no idea this was all going on. You hadn’t been posting here so I was going to your other site. What a pain in the ass. I agree with the wise wisdom from above. It’s really bad to make kids feel like they are choosing one over the other. Just think of it this way, she will leave again and you will still be there. If the kids do want you to stay, just bite your tongue. You will get your reward in the end. If you cause problems, the kiddo’s “may” resent you for it if only because they won’t like the drama of it.
Rise above her tactics. You don’t need the “tricks” because you are you.
The rest of the house? Nice and clean, Virgo style. hahaha….!!!
And about this… “So folks, it’s me, the WWW, two angels and hidden bags of crisps…” – I say its three angels…!! Hey, sistaa..you know we luv you, you do what you got to do for the benefit of those kids…time will just whizz past by!!!
Thanks all, means a lot